Master the Art of Communication & Unleash the Epic Romance in Your Love Life
Relationship Mastery Coaching is where you'll discover the MOST important ingredient to truly mastering communication that most people AREN'T EVEN AWARE OF.
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Ever wish you had someone who could just tell you what to say and how to say it so you actually felt seen, heard, and understood in your relationship?
I don't think it's any big secret that communication is KEY when it comes to having a great relationship.
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If you're like most people, however, making that happen can be a real challenge--to say the least.
So often communication can feel like you're spinning your wheels, racking your brain for the right words to say in order to get your loved one to actually listen to you, understand what you mean, how you feel--and by the end of it they STILL DON'T GET IT!
Tell me if you can relate to any of this.....
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- You feel like you're spinning on a hamster wheel having the same old fight over and over again without any real resolve.
- You try so hard to explain how you feel, what you need, and what you want, but you just can't seem to get your point across no matter how hard you try.
- You may feel like your partner is always angry and there's no point in even saying anything because they're not going to listen anyway.
- If your partner is shutting down, it just seems like they don't even care anymore.
- You miss feeling connected, want to feel special again, and like you matter.
- You may be feeling like your parter has even forgotten who you are, and it may even feel like you can't do anything right for them, despite your efforts.
- You may feel like when you try to address your problems directly, it just seems like your partner gets annoyed and irritated that you brought it up.
- You may beginning to wonder "Is it me? What's wrong with me? Why can't I figure this out? What am I doing wrong?"
- You might be afraid of not being able to fix this problem.....and even fear losing them if you can't figure it out.
- With all this going on, you're getting pretty exhausted, defeated, frustrated, and maybe even hopeless.
In spite of all of that, you still love them and want to make it work....you just want to be able to communicate....to be on the same page, and see eye to eye.
You KNOW there's GOT to be a better way to do this, you just haven't found it yet...
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By now, you may feel like you have tried EVERYTHING!
You've tried addressing the problem directly, you've tried explaining.
You may have even tried letting it go and tried not to make a big deal out of it.
You've asked a trusted friend or family member for help.
You've googled it, and you may have read books.
Heck, you may have even been to therapy, but you didn't find it that useful.
You've even tried using "I statements" instead of "You statements". You've tried refraining from using words like "always or never" so you don't shame and blame each other.
But you can't seem to find the missing piece to this puzzle.
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So what is it? What ARE you missing?
The majority of other experts, coaches, and even a lot of mental health professionals out there are going to give you communication skills.
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What that typically means is they're going to help you state your needs, feelings and limits clearly and directly to one another about the things that are important to you, but are problematic in your relationship. This could be things like household responsibilities, kids money, sex, etc.
In addition, they may support you to “get connected” by encouraging you to spend time together and appreciate each other more.
They may also teach you to change your behavior or change how you're thinking about a problem in order to overcome it.
Now, I'm not here to crap on any of those things...they are actually REALLY IMPORTANT, and necessary....however...
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In my opinion, THEY ALL FALL SHORT.
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Let me explain. Do you ever start to feel like no matter what you argue about (raising kids, household responsibilities, money, or sex) that it starts to feel like THE SAME OLD FIGHT but different topic?? Well, that's because....
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It doesn't actually matter what you're disagreement is about, because the same Underlying Pattern is what's driving the fight!
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That's EXACTLY why you can be arguing about any number of different things, but it feels like the SAME OLD FIGHT!
It's because the same old pattern of actions, behaviors, and emotions has not been fully uncovered, understood, and resolved.
If you're only ever addressing one behavior or one problem at a time, and not paying attention to the UNDERLYING CAUSE OF ALL OF THEM, then you haven’t really addressed the PROBLEM!!
That’s like trying to fill a leaky bucket with water…..if you just fixed the leak, you wouldn’t have to keep filling it!
In order to have truly great communication, you need to go a step further.
Communication IS important. But after 18 years of helping people to actually get the deeply connected love, passion, and romance that they truly desire, it's abundantly clear to me that something else is absolutely necessary to make communication really work so that your relationship can go from good to MIND BLOWINGLY GREAT.
The thing that I'm referring to is....
Unconscious Pattern Recognition.
Once you learn to recognize your unique unconscious relationship pattern that keeps getting in the way of good communication EVERYTHING CHANGES.
I believe that being able to recognize those unconscious negative patterns is the BEDROCK of good communication, and the FOUNDATION for deep and lasting connection.
Once you can recognize how you're getting sucked into an old pattern, you can use that knowledge to your advantage, break the pattern, and actually stop the problem dead in its tracks.
The topic or specific problem you’re fighting about was never the issue. The problematic pattern of HOW you’re addressing those problems IS the real issue! Fix that and you've got the keys to the kingdom baby!
Once you have new perspective of a problem because you can see the pattern clearly, communication flows easily and effortlessly. That's because you're on the same side working to end the unhelpful pattern, not against each other trying to win a fight.
Just so you know, negative patterns may be something you need to learn how to correct,
But they are not your fault.
Negative patterns don't just happen in communication BETWEEN people, they happen over time and across generations.
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It may not come as a surprise to you that when people learn something from their families, their parents, or past relationships…..they tend to repeat those SAME behaviors (repeat those SAME PATTERNS) in their current relationships--even though they aren't helpful.
Unfortunately, we humans are creatures of HABIT. We can pick up ineffective behaviors and unhelpful patterns because it was TAUGHT TO US while we were growing up.
Those patterns have just been passed down generation after generation without awareness.
Once those patterns start, they become really hard to STOP.
In fact those patterns become so engrained that they become UNCONSCIOUS. They just sort of become NORMAL.
It's sort of like asking a fish "How's the water?" It doesn't even know it's IN water, because that's where it's been it's whole life!
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Similarly, people don't even realize unhelpful patterns they've been a part of their whole lives...because it's been normalized.
So the question becomes...
How the heck do you stop something that you're not even consciously aware of to begin with?!
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That is an excellent question! Seeing your own problematic patterns is easier said than done.
Have you ever had that experience where you feel like you can see a friend or family member's problems CLEAR AS FRICKIN' DAY, but you can't recognize your own??
When you're looking at a friend's problems, you're standing outside the cyclone. You can actually see everything that's going on from outside of it. When you experience your own problems, you're looking at them from inside the cyclone. You literally can't see anything with all of that metaphorical wind blowing around!
All those emotions and being too close to the problem can make it darn near impossible to see your own problematic pattern.
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What you need is someone who can guide you out of the storm.
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Someone with practice and experience with recognizing the types of unconscious patterns that keep you from experiencing the love and connection that you deeply deserve and desire.
I mean, you could spend years of your life, countless hours of time, and effort to get those answers on your own....but if you're like me, you want those answers and you want them yesterday!!!
I'm not just saying that either. When it comes to personal development, recognizing unconscious patterns, talking things out and asking for help...Honey, believe me...
I Walk My Talk.
The reason I am so infinitely passionate about relationships and finding the absolute best ways to make them work is because I suffered tremendously in my own while I was growing up.
I'm the product of a nasty childhood divorce, painful social exclusion from peers in high school, and a lot of toxic narcissistic people that surrounded me for years.
I found my way out by asking for help. Anyone who knows me knows that if there's a problem going on in my life, the first thing I do is TALK about it.
I talk to anyone who knows more than me so that I can learn from them and then MASTER what they know.
Because of it, today I can honestly say that the connection and love I experience in my own life is beyond anything I ever could have imagined was possible.
I would LOVE to welcome you to the opportunity to truly Master the Art of Connection in your own life with....
ABOUT RELATIONSHIP MASTERY COACHING & WHY YOU NEED IT
Relationship Mastery Coaching is EVERYTHING they didn't teach you in school about relationships....but absolutely should have.
Relationship Mastery Coaching is provided exclusively by 18 year Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist turned Master Relationship Coach, and Communication Expert Shelby Levesque (Hi! That's Me!), who has dedicated over 40,000 hours of her time to helping people to get the relationships, love, passion, and romance that they so deeply desire.
Understanding how relationships work, learning how to identify unconscious patterns, and becoming a badass at communication is a SKILL....and I believe it's a skill anyone can learn. That includes YOU.
Absolutely nothing is left on the table when it comes to Relationship Mastery Coaching. If you're willing to put in the work, I'll personally teach you what you need to know in order to break out of the chains of the past, start communicating with confidence and clarity, so that you can finally get back to feeling truly connected, deeply understood, seen, heard, and loved in your relationship.
Communication is Easy When You Have the
Right Skills.
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I've taken my $150,000 education/training, along with over 18 years of experience as a marriage and family therapist and condensed them into a transformative 6 month / 12 session coaching experience that's going to radically shift the way you see relationships, and dramatically alter the ways in which you live, love, and connect for the rest of your life.
We meet roughly every 2 weeks online for a coaching session where I give you only the best of the best relationship principles, communication techniques--and yes, the inside secrets on how to recognize and FINALLY break free of those nasty negative unconscious patterns that are wreaking havoc on your relationship.
During these sessions you'll have the ability to ask questions and get answers to those tough problems that keep you up at night. You'll have me right by your side helping you to fully integrate all that you're learning.
This experience is meant to be done with or without your partner as well. While I do strongly encourage both of you to be present, I have definitely helped countless people to make MASSIVE shifts in their lives whether going solo or not.
During our time together I take you through the 6 Phases of Relationship Growth that I believe are necessary for curating an unstoppable connection. Here's a sneak peak at what we cover inside.....
Phase #1
THE LAY OF THE LAND
Here we take some serious time to understand the story of your relationship and what you feel has contributed to the problems you're facing. This is where we look at what you are consciously aware of that contributes to problems. We also set some powerful intentions for our time together.
Phase #2
RELATIONSHIP DEEP DIVE
In order to understand negative patterns, we need to go back to their origins....and that means way back. We look at repeating generational patterns from your family, as well as past relationship patterns, and how those influence your unconscious problematic patterns in your current relationship today.
Phase #3
MAKING THE UNCONSCIOUS CONSCIOUS
This is where you learn the KEY components to rewire your unconscious mind so that you can begin breaking the unconscious patterns that are breaking down your ability to communicate easily and effectively.
Phase #4
INTEGRATION & EMBODIMENT
I'm all about experiential learning. If you read a book on swimming or riding a bike....you still wouldn't know how. Some things you need to DO in order to really learn. This is where the rubber meets the road. It's not enough to listen and learn. You need to take MASSIVE ACTION to get the results you want! This is where we do just that!
Phase #5
POLISH & REFINE
Anything you do well takes practice. We know this when we watch kids do something new for the first time. Learning communication and connection are just like that. They're SKILLS. If you want to get really good at them, we PRACTICE! I'm your coach to tweak, refine, and make minor adjustments to perfect those skills.
Phase #6
ENHANCING CONNECTION
Now that you have a solid foundation for connecting and communicating like a pro, we look at how to take your relationship to the next level by igniting your emotional intimacy, romance, passion, and yes baby...your sex life! We also make a solid plan to ensure a loving connection that LASTS!
Unlocking the Love of Your Wildest Dreams is Just a Click Away...
You don't have to continue to figure this out on your own anymore....I'll be right by your side, guiding you easily and effortlessly each and every step of the way. Just click the button below to apply for Relationship Mastery Coaching Today!
Apply Now!If you've made it this far down the page one of the first questions you might be asking is this....
Do I Really NEED Relationship Coaching?
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Think of it this way. If your pipes are leaking, you call a plumber. If your car isn't working you call a mechanic. If you get sick, you see a doctor. And if you're struggling in your relationship(s), you should call someone with expertise in relationships!!!
You and your relationship don't deserve to SUFFER. Working to find answers on your own is admirable, I'm an independent soul myself! But my guess is that you're on this page for a reason. Maybe you're looking for some answers. It's quite possible that seeking support IS YOUR ANSWER.
I wouldn't wait until it's REALLY BAD. In the worst case scenario it's not worth the risk of potentially losing one of the most important things to you because you waited too long. Acting now allows you to break that vicious cycle that keeps happening so that you can actually THRIVE.
Frequently Asked Questions
I'm worried this sounds like a big investment.
How long does Relationship Mastery Coaching Last?
What if I don't have the time?
How many coaching sessions do I get when I sign up for Relationship Mastery Coaching?
What if my husband/wife/partner won't do this with me?
What if it doesn’t actually work? Do you offer a guarantee?
What if I'm not ready?
What if I’m not good at talking about feelings or having deep conversations? I hate talking about that stuff.
What if I love learning from you and want to continue? Do you have an opportunity to continue coaching and learn more?
Relationship Mastery Coaching Is Not For Everyone....
Coaching is Perfect For You If You Are...
✔ Wanting to address the ROOT cause of the problems in your relationship (not merely looking for a quick fix surface level change).
✔ Willing to own your mistakes and take full responsibility for your flaws in a relationship.
✔ Open minded and willing to try new things even if it makes you uncomfortable.
✔ COMMITTED to following through on the ACTIONS NECESSARY to change, even if they are hard.
✔ You recognize that personal development is an INVESTMENT to grow and become the best version of yourself that you know you can be.
✔ You welcome a little tough love, as long as you know it’s going to support you to get the life (and relationships) you actually WANT.
Coaching is Not the Best Fit If You Are...
𝗫 Someone who thinks that talking about your emotions is pointless.
𝗫 NOT interested in self-reflection and personal growth.
𝗫 Want to point out another person’s flaws without being willing to look at yourself.
𝗫 Only motivated to win a fight, show how you're right, and the other person is wrong.
𝗫 Looking for a quick fix with little to no effort.
𝗫 Not open to change.
𝗫 Someone who sees personal development as an “expense”.
𝗫 Looking for someone else to do the work for you.
𝗫 Want someone to *fix* you OR *fix* your partner.
𝗫 Not really interested in listening or empathizing with someone else's point of view.
Ok, I'm sure you might be wondering by now....
So....What's My Investment?
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Relationship Mastery Coaching may not be some quick fix or a cheap solution to your problems BUT it will get you the RESULTS that you desire!
It's a small investment in yourself and ALL of the relationships that you're a part of--NOT JUST THE ROMANTIC ONE.
When you learn how to apply the skills you'll discover to your romantic relationship, you'll also realize that you actually get to use those SAME SKILLS to help you communicate and connect in ALL your relationships--with your family, friends, kids, colleagues and beyond.
You GET to be a CHANGE MAKER, a cycle breaker, the one who actually stops this madness from repeating another generation. You GET to pass this amazing insight and valuable way of seeing things onto your children, family, and friends.
When you take all that into consideration, it's a small price to pay to completely change your life and the lives of everyone around you.
My usual rate for a coaching package of 12 sessions is $2500 to work with me for 6 months.
Because this is the first time I'm releasing this offer to the public beyond my local area, I've decided to take $500 off the original price for the FIRST 10 people (only 7 spots left!) who sign up for Relationship Mastery Coaching.
Right now you can join me inside Relationship Mastery Coaching for just
$167 Today!
All you have to do is fill out a Coaching Application today to get started!
Why fill out a coaching application?
Because I want to make sure we are a good fit for each other and I want to make sure that you're in a place where I can get you the actual RESULTS you're looking for, I won't just take on anyone. I don't want take your money or waste your time if it seems like you might need something different or better suited for your needs than coaching.
So, for that reason I have you fill out an application and if it seems like we can be a good match to work together....then we proceed forward!
Get started today! Apply for...
RELATIONSHIP MASTERY COACHING
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30-DAY MONEY-BACK GUARANTEE
I get that you may want to meet, make sure that we connect well, and decide if you feel like you can learn from me. So I am offering you a 30-day money back guarantee to give you a chance to do just that.
If you attend NO appointments during that time (which is highly unlikely--I like to get you scheduled right away!) you will get your full investment back, no questions asked. All you need to do is email me at [email protected], and you will be issued a full refund.
If you DO attend any appointments within that first 30 days, and you're not satisfied for any reason, I will refund any coaching sessions for which you have prepaid for, but not already attended.
It's Decision Time...
You can either keep doing what you're doing.....OR......you can make the decision to radically change your life and your relationships FOREVER.
I know it's tough to make that decision. It's a big commitment. But just remember that no decision IS actually making a decision.
I believe that you deserve better than remaining in the same stuck place that you've likely been in for a long time.
You deserve to finally break free of those patterns that keep you from the love and connection that you desire.
I also know for a fact that that that kind of love is possible, because I've experienced it and I've seen it in the eyes and heard it in the words of countless clients over the past 18 years .
Let me show you how to finally bring the magic of deep love and LASTING connection into your life too.